Single Parenting

Being a single parent can be stressful but it can also be a great thing. After being a single parent for over the last several years it has taught me a lot. I was just a young adult entering life unsure what becoming a parent was all about. There has been obstacles throughout my journey but who doesn’t have obstacles. Besides without obstacles you aren’t able to progress into someone better… Right?

That is what I have always been told and thought. Each situation in your life is a lesson for you to learn something. Sometimes you have to continue to repeat a lesson in different ways throughout your life. How many times can you repeat a lesson? Sheesh well it depends on how many times it takes you to learn the lesson. I definitely had to continue to learn a lesson about 3 times and each time became worse than the last. What do you do when you feel that you no longer want to have the strength to keep pushing for better when the lesson seems to be winning?

GET UP AND SHAKE IT OFF

Whenever you are feeling down the first thing I do is stop and think about the ones that are looking at me in the close distance. My babies. Without them I would not have had the strength to keep pushing and not give up a million times already. If they only have me then I will make sure that it is nothing in this world that they will have to question why they don’t have.

Swallowing that large pill of emotions and seeing those beautiful kids looking at me for guidance, food, shelter, clothes, etc. takes a lot. That is not all though. Look at the past. Yes it does show a lot of hurt and pain but there is also so much progress. Even the progress that has been made just the day before in completing a day and waking up to see another.

Words of Wise

I remember as a child I always heard the saying on the radio, “If you can’t change the people around you, change the people around you.” I never knew what that meant and always questioned it in my mind. This basically states that you cannot change people for who they are. So instead of trying to change who they are just change the people in your circle as a whole. This also comes with you cannot change people but have to accept who they are. People will be who they are without thinking or caring of how it affects others around them. So what do you do? Focus on you and your kids. They need you more than anything else in this world. When you are a single parent all your kids have is you.

In the End

Make every day count for you and those kids in every way. They are the future and it is up to you to be completely honest and upfront about everything with them. Someone once said your kids are your brokest best friends…. I love my four broke best friends but I will make sure they are not broke forever.